#ElulBlog 4: Accept








I accept others’ eccentricities, idiosyncrasies,

oddities, foibles, peccadillos, vagaries, quirks,

even (and especially) their mishegas.

Find it alluring, endearing, engaging,

appealing, intriguing, beguiling, captivating;

part of their charm.


I have a double standard – in myself,

eccentricity is insanity, oddity is odious,

idiosyncrasy is idiotic, foible is a flaw,

quirks are disquieting, vagary is vicious.

It’s distasteful, hateful, loathsome, detestable,

intolerable, repugnant.


My double standard flows through to

positive personality traits – others’ are to be

celebrated, cheered, lionized, praised, proclaimed.

Mine are imagined, spurious, fabricated,

fictitious, fraudulent, phony, fake, fetid;

smoke and mirrors.


Radical acceptance, I’ve been told, practice

radical acceptance. Mishegas, I say.

(I am also judgmental…)


 I’ve decided to participate for the first time in #blogElul, which I have followed for a few years. I’ve never had the courage to get my feet wet – this year, I’m jumping into the deep end of the pool! Check out some of the amazing  themed posts geared around the work and joy of Elul – of introspection and reflection in the days leading to the High Holy Days (Organized by Ima Bima.) You can read last year’s and this year’s #blogElul posts via the Elul tag.

About armsakimbobook

I'm a mother, a lawyer, a feminist, a writer, a potter, and an inveterate and unapologetic New Yorker. My book, Arms Akimbo: A Journey of Healing, tells of my journey of healing over a number of years, learning to live a full life after I was molested by my father at a very young age. I live in Maynard, MA, with my wife and and our two moose-cats, Samson and Hercules. My daughter used to live with me part-time, but she's all grown up now and in her junior year of college, which I can't quite fathom, since she was born about five minutes ago...
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