Monthly Archives: June 2015

Consequences & How We Misuse Them

Originally posted on Visible Child:
As most of you who read this blog know, I’m a stickler for words and definitions.  One of the places in which this comes up most frequently is in regard to “consequences.”  It’s not that…

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On Being Molested – Part 4

How did being molested at an early age change me, I wonder? Because I don’t know who I was, or who I was meant to be, or who I might have been. All that can never be discovered or retrieved, … Continue reading

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On Being Molested, Part 3

On hard days, I still talk to my different parts. Most of the conversations happen late at night, when I can’t sleep. When ghosts try to enter the inner sanctum. When I am most vulnerable – at my most tired. … Continue reading

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On Being Molested, Part 2

The aftershocks of being molested as a young child can feel unending.They can come fast and furious, or wait for months before the ground again gives way in an earthquake of epic proportions. They hit hard, and I fall hard. … Continue reading

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Burying the Ghosts of Trauma

As I have worked my way through the worst of my trauma – the debilitating, breath-stopping, function-sucking part – I have tried to buried my father’s ghost hundreds of times, with varying degrees of success. In retrospect, it amazes me … Continue reading

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On Being Molested

How’s that for a title? Over the past decade, so much of my life has been about healing. About learning how to trust after a lifetime (really, truly – a lifetime) spent in the trust abyss. I have done it … Continue reading

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In Memoriam (#Charlestonshooting)

Darkness and Light Obsidian night stretching into day light drowned in tears. Fleeting flashes bright sparks of hatred snuffing out souls. Real people not abstractions. Speak their names. Cynthia Hurd 54 years old. Beloved librarian. Innocents communing in the bosom … Continue reading

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Food for Thought – Day 13

Unwilling to give up on kale just yet, I bought a REALLY good salad mix from Wegman’s. Healthy, refreshing, delicious. Who knew I could utter those words while speaking of kale?   Kale and Brussels sprouts Wegman’s pre-packaged salad Yup … Continue reading

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Food for Thought – Day 12

After yesterday’s orgy of junk, I was mindful today about my eating and my body. Physically, I feel so much better. Emotionally too. Surprising, sort of.   All veggies all day virtuous and vigilant body is buoyant.   Trying out … Continue reading

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Define your dreams

Really great practical advice (said the one who is currently putting together a business plan to follow her dream…)

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