Choices, Part 1 of 3: Why? When?

Really helpful piece on how and when to give your children choices.

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I’ve encountered a lot of misunderstandings about offering children choices recently. I’m hoping a rundown might help.  Today, Part 1 of 3, focusing on why and when choices are a good idea.

1.  Why offer choices? 

One of the most critical and valuable pieces of advice we can receive in today’s social media-saturated world is “Don’t Read The Comments.”  Just don’t do it.  It’s bad for your health.  But, you know, if you do read the comments on parenting articles (which I sometimes do, let’s just say I do it for you so you don’t have to, I’m giving like that), you will most assuredly encounter comments bemoaning the notion that “crazy parents these days are negotiating with their kids, that’s why kids are turning out to be such spoiled brats” (or some variation on that theme).

I always read those comments with a smile, because little do they know…

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I'm a mother, a lawyer, a feminist, a writer, a potter, and an inveterate and unapologetic New Yorker. My book, Arms Akimbo: A Journey of Healing, tells of my journey of healing over a number of years, learning to live a full life after I was molested by my father at a very young age. I live in Maynard, MA, with my wife and and our two moose-cats, Samson and Hercules. My daughter used to live with me part-time, but she's all grown up now and in her junior year of college, which I can't quite fathom, since she was born about five minutes ago...
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