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Tag Archives: incest
Now It’s The Donald – Men in Power
What the hell is it about men in power? Do they lose their minds? Their morals? Any semblance of common decency? Are they unable to think except with their penises? Today’s focus in on The Donald. Trump, that is. And … Continue reading
Posted in Incest, Outrage
Tagged amygdala, Bill Cosby, Donald Trump, incest, incest survivor, Ivanka Trump, objectification, tapping
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On Being Molested – Part 4
How did being molested at an early age change me, I wonder? Because I don’t know who I was, or who I was meant to be, or who I might have been. All that can never be discovered or retrieved, … Continue reading
Posted in Grieving, Healing, Incest, Outrage, Poems, Trauma
Tagged Arms Akimbo: A Journey of Healing, incest, incest survivor, Molested, parts, rage, warrior
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On Being Molested, Part 3
On hard days, I still talk to my different parts. Most of the conversations happen late at night, when I can’t sleep. When ghosts try to enter the inner sanctum. When I am most vulnerable – at my most tired. … Continue reading
On Being Molested, Part 2
The aftershocks of being molested as a young child can feel unending.They can come fast and furious, or wait for months before the ground again gives way in an earthquake of epic proportions. They hit hard, and I fall hard. … Continue reading
Posted in Grieving, Healing, Incest, Trauma
Tagged Arms Akimbo, child sexual abuse, EMDR, flashbacks, healing, incest, incest survivor, Molested, PTSD, survivor, trauma
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On Being Molested
How’s that for a title? Over the past decade, so much of my life has been about healing. About learning how to trust after a lifetime (really, truly – a lifetime) spent in the trust abyss. I have done it … Continue reading
Posted in Grieving, Healing, Incest, Poems, Trauma, violation
Tagged eulogy, incest, incest survivor, Molested, Mourner's Kaddish, mourning
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Healing – Day 1: To Forgive Or Not To Forgive…
…That Is The Question. One of the most important things I’ve learned in my journey is that forgiveness isn’t always necessary. It’s not THE critical component in moving forward. Context is important here, so let me share a bit of … Continue reading
Posted in Healing, Jewish, Judaism
Tagged achievable, anxiety, flashbacks, forgiveness, healing, incest, manageable, prayer, resolution, shift, spiritual guide, unforgivable
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Heroes
I don’t have a lot of heroes. Not really. I do use the term loosely at times – thanking a sales clerk who digs and digs in the stockroom and finds me the perfect shoes in my size, saying “You’re … Continue reading
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Tagged baseball, friend, grandpa, heroes, incest, incest survivor, my father's hands, NY Mets, Shea Stadium
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RAGE RAGE RAGE: I hate abusers
I am in a towering rage today. I have been since last Thursday morning. A dear friend of mine called and told me that his daughter had been molested by her stepfather. I know this child. I love this child. … Continue reading
Posted in Silence/Collusion
Tagged abusers, children, healing, incest, incest survivor, punishment, rage, silence, trauma
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Colluding With Silence
Do you ever ponder why two words get stuck together in your head? Conflated? Sometimes they’re tried and true ones (like that), fixed over time and by popular usage. Tried and true. Black and white (thinking). Ham and eggs. Zig … Continue reading
Posted in Silence/Collusion
Tagged collusion, healing, incest, incest survivor, parent-child abuse, silence, trauma
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